Navigating Advice Overload in Early Pregnancy
The moment you find out you’re pregnant, everything changes.
You start dreaming about your baby, imagining the months ahead, and wondering what your body will feel like as it grows new life.
And almost instantly, it feels like everyone has something to say.
Your mom wants to share how she did things “back then.”
A friend tells you about a product she couldn’t live without.
Online, every scroll brings a new opinion, a warning, or a list of “must-haves.”
It’s all meant to be helpful — but before long, it can start to feel like too much.
Why it feels so overwhelming
Pregnancy is already full of new sensations, new decisions, and new emotions. When you add a constant stream of advice, it can make you question yourself or feel like you’re already doing it “wrong.”
The truth is, everyone’s experience is different.
What worked beautifully for one person might not be what’s best for you — and that’s perfectly okay.
Find a few trusted sources
You don’t need to take in everything. In fact, it’s better if you don’t.
Pick a few trusted sources that feel supportive and aligned with your values — maybe your midwife, your doula, a couple of evidence-based websites, or one or two voices online that make you feel calm instead of anxious.
Let that be enough.
Once you have those trusted places to go, you can stop chasing every opinion and start enjoying learning again — finding what truly fits you, your body, and your baby.
Keep the joy in learning
Researching your pregnancy and birth options should be exciting. It’s a way to get to know yourself as a mother — to explore what matters most to you.
But if you find yourself deep in internet rabbit holes, feeling more confused than confident, that’s your cue to take a step back.
Put the phone down, go for a walk, breathe.
Rest your hand on your belly and remember: you don’t need to know everything today. You just need to be here, right now, doing your best — and that’s more than enough.
Handling all the “helpful” advice
You’ll get advice even when you don’t ask for it — sometimes from people you love, sometimes from complete strangers. And while they usually mean well, you don’t have to take it all in.
Here are a few gentle, kind replies you can keep in your back pocket:
“Thank you — I’ll keep that in mind.”
“That’s interesting. I’ll check in with my midwife or doula about it.”
“I appreciate that, but I’m trying to stick to what feels right for us.”
“Thanks, but I’m trying not to take in too much information at once.”
Or just a warm smile and a change of topic — that works too.
You’re not being rude by protecting your peace. You’re honouring your space and your mental well-being.
Trust yourself
There’s so much wisdom in your body — and in your intuition.
You already know more than you think you do.
Every pregnancy is different, every baby is different, and you are the only one who can truly feel what’s right for you.
So, when it all starts to feel like too much, come back to yourself.
You’re allowed to tune out the noise. You’re allowed to take it slow.
You don’t have to do this alone
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by all the advice and information, that’s okay — most moms do.
This is exactly why I love supporting women through early pregnancy and beyond.
As a doula, my role isn’t to add more noise, but to help you find clarity, calm, and confidence in your own choices.
If you ever need someone to walk beside you through all the questions, I’m here.
You deserve to feel grounded and supported as you grow your baby — not pulled in a hundred different directions.
